Resolve Conflict Before It Grows — Practical Playbook

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Here are the first 5 questions. Create a conversation to invite someone and discuss each card.

1. <section> <h2>Quick Reference — Resolve Conflict Before It Grows (Cheat Sheet)</h2> <p>A one-page guide you can print, keep in your manager notes, or save to a quick-access file. Use this when you spot friction and need a short plan.</p> <h3>Quick signals to notice</h3> <ul> <li>Repeated missed commitments, deadlines, or deliverables</li> <li>Consistently withdrawn participation in meetings</li> <li>Escalating tone or curt messages</li> <li>Private complaints or small-group avoidance</li> <li>Work quality changes tied to interpersonal friction</li> </ul> <h3>Do this in the next 48–72 hours</h3> <ol> <li>Privately confirm the pattern (ask neutral questions to each person).</li> <li>Decide who is best to have the conversation (peers first, manager if power imbalance).</li> <li>Plan a 20–40 minute conversation. Use the planner to prepare facts, impacts, and desired outcomes.</li> </ol> <h3>Conversation opener (try this)</h3> <p>"I want to check in because I’ve noticed X and I’m worried it’s getting in the way of our work. I value our working relationship and would like to understand what’s happening and see if we can find a practical way forward. Is now a good time to talk for about 30 minutes?"</p> <h3>During the conversation — 4 short moves</h3> <ul> <li><strong>Facts:</strong> Ask for what happened. Clarify specifics and timelines.</li> <li><strong>Impact:</strong> State observed impact on work, team, or relationships.</li> <li><strong>Interests/Needs:</strong> Ask what each person needs or fears.</li> <li><strong>Options & Agreement:</strong> Brainstorm small experiments and agree on observable next steps + date to follow up.</li> </ul> <h3>Dos & Don’ts</h3> <ul> <li>Do keep curiosity and curiosity-laced questions in the lead.</li> <li>Do name observable behavior, not character.</li> <li>Don’t require immediate agreement — allow time to think.</li> <li>Don’t escalate to HR or formal processes unless safety, harassment, or legal risk exists.</li> </ul> <h3>Follow-up timing</h3> <p>Short check (1–2 weeks), then a second check (3–6 weeks). If improvements are visible, celebrate and embed changes. If not, escalate thoughtfully.</p> </section>